Friendology Summit #friendshipsummit 06.09.19
After the sheer shock of how great this school was, I finally began to focus on what our intention was of today…Friendology! I was very excited to see how those who have implemented Friendology within their school realms were finding the program. By having an array of different speakers, we were able to experience how 'Friendology' is affecting individuals from all facets of life: educators, students and business people…even celebrities!
WE MET CAMERON FROM MARRIED AT FIRST SIGHT! :O!
Students will remember how you made them feel! Based on the foundation of strong relationships between the teacher and students, the child flourishes within the school grounds.
Positive Psychology: Other people matter. SAFE, SEEN & BELONG.
David Bott: We are our relationships - We are programmed to connect!
We are our relationships - how wellbeing science is helping us make better, stronger, more meaningful connections with others.
What a brilliant speaker, David, made a brilliant link between the animal kingdom and human beings. This witty link highlighted the importance of social relationships within all species! The only way to survive in this world is connected. The link between animals who are from different parts of the world working through collaboration highlights the interrelated structure of reality. Our mind creates our social world, our connected reality, which is why connection and relationships are fundamentally built into our DNA. We are human; we are social beings; we are our relationships.
Professor Read Montague - Cognition is fundamentally different when you engage with another person, you turn into 'social mode' our brain functions best when we are collaborating and speaking with others! Our brain shifts into a different mode and functions BETTER!
There is nothing more cringe than having to mingle with people you do not know, but as expected at any conference there will be the notorious 'ice-breakers.' David Boat took this to a new extreme he began with the stereotypical introduce yourself to the people around you… which for me was great at I was surrounded by my fellow friend-o-logians (STC STAFF). It was not until he asked us all, as a group, to sing Sweet Caroline. My pure form appeared; everyone became one at that moment. I truly felt like Mufasa from the Lion King, leading the heard, leader of the animal kingdom, as the swans from across the room and the hyenas on our table become one. A sense of community appeared.
Davids Essential Practical Takeaways:
Unteach: Begin the lesson by connecting with students, being a human, connecting with their student. Essential to connect with students before teaching.
Work at building trust: Trust does not just happen; you need to build trust with your students; it takes work. Three dimensions of trust - The Trust Project - Competence (able), honesty(honest) and benevolence(love)
Play: High-quality connections stem from elements of play, causes us to be vulnerable to breakdown barriers.
Speak human, teach skills: Positive education creates deliberate language around wellbeing: compassion, the capacity to teach children about the complex language around relationships.
Be Human: Be a role model; be a living connection.
"Lighthouses do not go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining." - Anne Lamott, American novelist
Physically we are pathetic species on the planet - due to our human instincts we are born with no skills we can barely eat when we are born compared to other animals who can automatically accomplish great. However, we have our BRAINS! This complex entity in our mind which makes us AMAZING!
As a social species, we have two environmental components (Physical and social) Our social world within our brain allows interactions/experiences/feeling emotions to exist!
Our social environment is the most fundamental aspect of our life!
Sociologist - Studies Human Nature - "The core of all societies."
Preference for one's group
Mark Collard: Connection Before Content
The Environment Dictates the Performance
Flow and play: the opportunity for playful moments are essential for engagement.
Trust - Without trust, people pull away from participating. With trust, they are willing to engage
Challenge - Without challenge, you learn through boredom and routine.
Research clearly shows that programs which intentionally develop trusting and healthy relationships from the beginning outperformance all the r progress on so many levels, including greater participation, stronger relationship and outcomes.
Social connectedness among adolescents was a better predictor of adult wellbeing than academic achievement.
Connect Before Content
If you are working with human beings, you must connect first before any content being attained by the student. There are extra time and effort at the forefront will help you down the track. It will be worth the initial work as in the long run; you do not have to deal with dysfunctional relationships.
FUN - Play is disarming; it is attractive for students, taking fun more seriously! “It is fun to have fun, but you have to know-how! - Dr Seus
App: ‘Playmeo’ - Free group games, video tutorials, leadership Tips, Weekly articles.
Leonie Abbott: Creating Calm classrooms that build connections
Routines of Connections
1. The importance of our greetings!
Do we teach students how to greet each other? Do they know how to begin a conversation?
Greetings will make a difference in learning:
Use a friendly nonverbal greeting
Say the student's name
make eye contact
give a few words of encouragement
Ask how their day is going
Introducing Healthy Touch
- Predictability builds safety, having consistent routines and meaningful interactions as the adult in the room we are predictable. Students do not know how to act towards you is essential that you keep consistent.
Unpredictability = RISK
C - Consistent
P - Predictable
R - Routines
Ensure the values represent the students in the school; therefore, they believe they can access them.
Expectations within our classroom, let our students know what will happen and be aware of what we expect from them. Acknowledge our students emotional or social pain. When they measured emotional pain, and physical pain registers in the same place in the brain! Do we notice the social pain as carefully as we can see our students physical pain?
Recognising important occasions (Acknowledgments)
Creating a learning climate
Ash Buchanan: Benefit Mindset
Fixed Mindset - believe that our intelligence ad abilities are a built trait, e.g. naturally good at, not and will only focus on that domain. E.g. I am good at sport only do extra-curricular sports activities.
Growth Mindset - Everyday learning, we believe our intelligence and ability are valuable we can grow and develop further by trying new things, in particular, those that may not be my strength. Give it a go ideology.
Benefit Mindset - Way that our learning and growth can bring out the best in the world around us. Not just benefit ourselves, e.g. a young person who will give maths and creativity a go but will then look at it as a way to bring out the best in the world around them.
“Striving to not only be the best in the world - but to be the best for the world” - Benefit Corporation.
The interconnected nature of our world means that we impact everybody around us unconsciously; it is a way to be of service to those around us.
Authentic Examples of Benefit Mindset
21 Day Benefit Mindset Challenge
Do something that is an example of a benefit Mindset Challenge.
Ss must do something different each day.